I am all for love, in all its shapes and forms. But the older I get and the more I experience love, the more I come to understand that despite love being the single most simple truth of life, it is actually got depth to it that for the most part most of us don’t dive into because we are often content with a single drop.
I don’t mean to say that people don’t love deeply, of course they do. But I have come to wonder if the concept of love with which we are mostly familiar with and or is socially and culturally practiced is merely a glimpse of what real and deep love has to offer us. This thought or concept can be overwhelming because love as we know it now is an incredibly beautiful and strong and to think that it can be even more beautiful and more joyful can be hard to grasp.
I talk about love because it has been a hot topic for me since my separation from my partner of 5.5 years. I have been on a soul journey trying to understand what love is or at least what I want it to be for me. In one of my posts (Mantra) I’ve mentioned that I want to Be Love. I believe we are all made of love and will return to love, but we find it hard to Be Love in the world which we have created. There are plenty of examples of acts of love, but there are few people who surrender to the depths of love within them. As I go through the evolution of the break up and seperating from a love that is so important to me, I have come to realise that the love I felt for my partner, I didn’t extend or feel towards myself. How can I Be Love, if I am not in love with myself? I don’t mean this in a narcissistic or egotistical way, I mean this in a spiritual and elighting way. I’ve always pursued love outside of myself, but love doesn’t need a partner, love just needs our own presence. I came across this quote which articulated my thoughts beautifully:
Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you. That is your true home. – Sri Ravi Shankar
I am starting to question if the concept of love and being in love, as we know today, is distracting us from the reality which we are meant to seek. What if the concept of soulmate and true love wasn’t referring to another human being, what if it was referring to ourselves? Maybe “being in love” refers to a place within. If we are made of love then being in it means being present with it. If we are present with it, we can manifest it. We’ve bought into this belief that love is what we achieve with “another”, but I am starting to feel that to love and or to be in love we need to fall madly, truly and deeply in love with ourselves. All of it, inside and out, beauty and the beast.
I don’t mean to take away from relationships, loving another person or choosing a life partner; of course all of that is important and meaningful. But I think we miss an important step on that collective journey if we haven’t yet found our first true love and if we have never sat in the space of love which resides within us.
To love yourself like you would love another is no easy task, it takes alot of courage, patience, pain, lessons, growth and practice. But I would imagine that once anyone achieves this state, they would feel a sense of bliss, joy and contentment that they cannot achieve through another; at least not in the same way or as deeply. I would like to embark on this journey and give myself the chance to fall in love with myself and I encourage others to join me on this path. Everyone deserves to find their true love, their true self. Start your journey today, sit with yourself and feel your love manifest and learn how to extend that same love towards yourself.
Love Always,
Miss Dreamer
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