Who am I? Am I that which you define? Am I that who I make out to be? Am I the thoughts, beliefs and attitudes I display? Or am I the way which I make others feel?
We all go through life trying to understand and form our identity like as though it is somehow constant and never changing. Like as though our identity is what shapes our lives and gives meaning to us and who we are. We’ve gotten so attached to our identities that we forget to let go of components which don’t serve us or others. Our identity is how we show up in this world and there is no denying that, but it is not who we are. It doesn’t need to define us because through our identity we find those who are alike and those who aren’t and then decide how to make sense of these differences.
We identify with a broad range of things our race, religion, culture, education, social class, sexuality, language, gender, clothing, personality and so on. But these are all the masks that we choose to wear as we walk through this world and life trying to find a purpose that brings value to our existence. Underneath all of this we are all the same, whether you’re a man or a woman, black or white, short or tall, funny or dull, smart or not, able or disabled, Muslim or Christian etc. underneath all of this we all have the same biology, the same build, the same essence. We are all human and we’ve decided to lose focus of our humanity so that we can find some purpose in association and in belonging.
We all essentially want the same things in different ways, whether it be love, health, power, opportunity, hope, happiness, laughter, acceptance, belonging or purpose. We are all motivated by these underlying desires which then show up differently based on the way which we have come to experience the world and the identity which we’ve decided to wear as we walk through our journey.
But if you strip all this back, the question still stands ‘who am I?’ Who do I want to be? and who gets to decide how I’m defined? Can I be someone today and another person tomorrow? Can I choose to be ever changing because I realise that through life you change and evolve constantly? Or do I need to be consistent and predictable to make those around me feel more comfortable?
I know in my core that my essence is love and that it is no different to you, or him, or her or anyone else. I believe that we are all the same and that our essence, our souls, are from the same place and will always remain consistent. Sometimes holding onto the various characteristics we’re used to identify with can be harmful to getting closer to others around us. I don’t want to take away from the differences between us, there is beauty in all the ways we express ourselves and there is value in the difference too. The diversity that the human race comes in is worth celebration. But in our current world, this diversity is taking us further and further away from the core truth that underneath it all we are all the same and so it doesn’t matter what we express ourselves with, we are connected, we are one and so we need to be kind to each other we need to show up with our love and compassion.
What a world it would be, if instead of trying to stand firm on the ground of our identities, we undressed our souls and became vulnerable with those that are around us. Scary thought, because the gap between here and there is huge. At the moment our collective consciousness can’t be trusted with this level of vulnerability because we have gotten consumed by technology, by the problems around us and by the narratives that have been given to us.
Take the time to undress your own soul, do it in front of the mirror so you can see that behind all the different components of your identity you are made of love, kindness, compassion, peace, healing and light. Behind all the insecurities, pain, trauma, rejection, loneliness, misunderstandings and struggles you have a source of freedom, bliss and contentment that is waiting for your return.
Who am I? Every day the answer to this will change, every day you will learn a new answer to it.
Love Always,
Miss Dreamer
Souloom™ 