What is your plan?
This is a question that I get asked a lot lately by acquaintances, family and friends. I think it comes from a place of curiosity as they wonder how I plan to navigate the uncertainty that is currently surrounding my relationship with my partner who is in the UK.
We are somewhat stuck, with no way forward and really no way back. But I have to remind myself that this is just for the time being and that everything in life is fluid, so everything changes. At the moment the obstacles on our way are very clear, we can’t live in the same country and that’s irrespective of the pandemic.
So what’s the plan?
The plan is to trust the timing of my life and the notion that anything that is meant for me will not pass me by. So, that means dealing with the current circumstance as courageously and beautifully as possible. There is always two sides to any coin, of course being away from him is hard but it’s also enabling us to see sides of each other that we wouldn’t be exposed to in the same place. It is also giving me the time to learn more about myself and what I want to foster more of. There is a lot of healing that is needed from my end. This is a journey I need to take on my own, in my own space, through my own thoughts and in my own time, so the distance has allowed me to give myself the time and space required to heal.
I don’t know what the plan is, but I do know that setting the right intention is sufficient for you to start making the right decisions that get you closer to your goals. I know that for me, it’s allowed me to really teeth out what I want in my future and what I don’t. When I say this, I don’t mean I have a definitive response and or a black and white view of my future, instead I now realise that what I want in my future is an abundance of adaptability and the strength to practice gratitude even when circumstances aren’t aligned to my desires.
Sometimes the lessons we learn are hard and everlasting, but they help us reset our expectations to match the reality of the world we live in. That doesn’t equate to doom and gloom mentality, it just means recognising that there is more uncertainty in life than you can possibly imagine. As demonstrated to us first hand by the pandemic. So, if you have lost the past and can’t control the future, then where can you practically apply your focus? If you answered the present, you are correct.
Here and now is all that we have, we literally don’t know what the next minute will bring with it. Now, this can be a scary thought or it can be a liberating one. The more you let go of controlling the future the more you can prepare for one that is aligned to your vision. Perhaps this is the secret ingredient for entrepreneurs that succeed, after all they take risks in order to achieve their dreams but they don’t exercise control as they know there isn’t much that they can control!
Just because I don’t have a plan, doesn’t mean that there can’t be a happy ending to this story. Just because there is no clarity at this stage, doesn’t mean we aren’t going to make it. What I need to walk in the right direction is hope, patience, optimism, enthusiasm and gratitude. The rest will reveal itself to us when it needs to.
Never lose sight of the optimistic vision you can hold for your future.
Stay hopeful.
Love Always,
M
Souloom™ 