What a week it has been! I was reminded of the kindness of people when I had 3 complete strangers offer to help with my uncles immigration queries and circumstance. I was in awe of how they were willing to give up their own time to help out with something that they had no ties to. It’s moments like this that you really remember the greatness that humans are capable of, that greatness is often an act of kindness. I also got to explore different avenues regarding my career, talking to recruiters, hiring managers and consultants and really taking the time to reflect on what is it that I want?
I set the intention of clarity and the universe is delivering the opportunities for me to really question and understand what it is that I want. There is nothing like finding yourself in a cross-roads that forces you to really unpack your thoughts, feelings and experiences to then determine which aspects of them you want to take forward with you and which you want to leave behind. From a career perspective I’m facing the cross roads of remaining in an organisation that has good hearted people who I enjoy working with vs. going to an organisation that I will have the opportunity to do some great work in. And so the battle between the heart and the mind begins, this can get a bit ugly before it gets better!
What to do? Going back to the kindness of others, I also got the privilege of crossing paths with a coach this week, who took time out of her day to give me advice and guidance (for free) from the UK and she told me something really important, she said that choosing your heart is important because it is ultimately going to guide you towards what you are most passionate about. When I take this learning away and look at my career again, I remember that I don’t want to stay in HR forever. In an ideal world I would like to have a coaching business which will allow me to enable others. But my ego is keen to climb the ladder of success, it seeks the status, the elaborateness and the potential income earning capacity which then gives me both security, sense of freedom and a sense of validation that I’m as valuable as others.
I am getting better at asking myself the question of who am I living for? Am I living for myself or am I living for others. Am I living to compete with those around me or am I living to find contentment within me? These are important questions to be clear about because they can sway you in very different directions in your life. What I realise now at this stage of my life is that any decision that isn’t aligned to your values, aspirations and priorities is a decision that will ultimately suck the joy out of you. This is why making values based decisions is always going to result in more joy and peace of mind than decisions which will give you ‘more’.
Love Always,
M
Souloom™ 