I’ve started a new training program to develop my coaching skills further and it’s requiring a lot of deep work and reflection about how our childhood coping mechanisms can develop into unhelpful saboteurs for us as adults. This weeks focus is on identifying a universal saboteur that is the judge, which is either critical of self, others and or a situation.
Identifying your judge may or may not come easy, for me I can clearly identify it when I’m judging others but it’s harder to catch when I’m judging myself. During practice today I heard the whisper in my ears that was constant but subtle. It was trying to make me feel guilty and unworthy for the way that I had been practicing the exercises the past two days. It was trying to convince me that I’m not good enough and that I can’t even get this right. It’s funny how our thoughts can sometimes sound like strangers. How is it that we have these unconscious thoughts running our lives and yet most of the time we are completely unaware that they’re the ones in the drivers seat?
I don’t like what I’ve come to learn about my inner judge, when it is critical of others it’s full of anger and frustration, when it is critical of me it is full of guilt and sadness. It’s not the way that I want to go about my life and or my relationships. But it’s been wired into my unconscious state and it has a lot of power over me. I’m determined to become more aware of this judge so that I can intercept it as much as possible, that is the whole intent of the program. So I know it is possible to regain control over your inner thoughts and to operate from a state of love and compassion, but I also know that the journey there is going to be long and challenging.
Whether you look at this from a psychological perspective or a spiritual one, the goal is the same and that is to find inner peace and to live in joy.
Be observant of your own judge, when you spot it remember to come back to the present moment and to acknowledge it with kindness and inform it that you no longer need it.
Love Always,
M
Souloom™ 