We all have wounds. It’s funny how we walk around pretending that we are perfectly fine when really inside a lot of us are going through the same painful experiences. As a coach I have the privilege and honour of stepping into a sacred space with clients, where they reveal all the painful thoughts and experiences to me. Although they all come from different walks of life and have different journey’s ahead, they all have one thing in common, they all want to be loved and accepted for who they are.
This manifests itself in many different ways, either their sense of worthiness is questioned, or they don’t feel valuable, or perhaps they feel like they don’t belong and or are doing something wrong. It all really boils down to the same things, they all just want love, peace and happiness. On the surface looking at these individuals you would label them successful, inspiring, courageous, strong and confident. But deep down, they’re also constrained by the same challenges that everyone else is going through.
It’s the same with those who suffer from mental health challenges. Many of us are walking around with depression and anxiety, pretending we are absolutely fine and giving more and more to the world around us. But underneath, we’re dying for relief from the crippling energy that comes with anxiety and the numbness that depression casts over you.
I’ve been in both camps, I’ve been perceived as the confident person who has their Sh*t together and I also have suffered from severe depression and anxiety, without most people knowing. Whilst I haven’t actively tried to hide how I am feeling and or the insecurities that I’m going through, I have been selective about who I share it with and what I share. I don’t think this has much to do with my own perspectives on this topic rather than the reservation that comes with not knowing how someone else will react.
When you are going through these challenges being confronted with what could be perceived as rejection, judgement and pity often has a detrimental impact on the progress you can make. Without knowing if someone will be compassionate and understanding, it’s hard and I would argue unsafe to disclose the most vulnerable aspects of yourself. But it’s important to point out that this is not the fault of others, this is a social and cultural issue as we are not equipped and or educated with the tools and responses required to handle these situations with care.
That is why you have trained psychologists, specialists and even coaches that understand how to show up in the face of such circumstance and let the individual know they’re not broken nor are they alone. They are just human going through human experiences; that is not to dismiss what they’re feeling and or the challenges they’re going through. It’s just to highlight that there isn’t anything wrong with them, rather they just need help and support to get through the challenge that is in front of them and more often than not inside of their heads!
A lot of us develop insecurities because we’ve been told lies, that’s where we need to individually develop the consciousness and the awareness to realise that the lies that we’ve been told are where these insecurities live. This is not an individual problem, this is a social and cultural issue that is plaguing all of us in one shape or another. If only we knew that deep within we have infinite resources that can help us live the life that we deserve and to feel the love that we are worthy of.
When I coach, I step into a sacred space where a client and I unpack their fears, lies and their experiences and we examine them in order to determine what they need in order to let it go. We work through what they need to feel empowered and enabled to get through these lies and find their truth. In that space, we unveil the ego and realise the true essence of our being which is love. Coaching is the act of stepping into the space of love and allowing it to wash over you so that you can heal on your own Soul Journey.
Whatever you’re going through, you’re not alone. You can and will get through these challenges.
Love Always,
M
Souloom™ 