The world is going through a lot right now and so we’re all going through a lot with it. It can be really overwhelming looking around and seeing pain, grief and loss around every corner. I’ve been struggling a lot over the past couple of years, some of this struggle was related to my own personal life and others related to the broader state of the world. Either way a lot of energy has been zapped, a lot of anxiety has been encouraged and a lot of fear has grown. This is both the beauty and the pain of our brains, whatever you spend your focus and energy on your brain will cultivate. If you spend your time and thoughts on self-pity, hurt, fear, pain, loss, injustice, anger etc. then you will cultivate a not so happy and healthy brain. If you spend your time focusing on compassion, forgiveness, gratitude, beauty, love, connection, joy etc. then your brain will cultivate a garden full of diverse flowers and plants.
The latter doesn’t mean one doesn’t go through the former, it just means that we’re not spending time in a garden that is full of weeds and instead focus on planting the right seeds to grow our flowers. It’s taken me a long time to delayer this notion that we have a choice in how we experience our lives, every time I think I understand it I come to learn through wisdom that there is more to it. Like most things in life, there are many depths to our lessons and so we have to observe and stretch more and more if we want to go through evolutions in our Soul Journey.
What I’ve come to recognise and appreciate recently is that if I want to experience life differently then I need to make better choices about where I spend my time, energy and thoughts. I have to choose things that are better for me over the things that are easier for me. This for me starts with self-awareness and self-acceptance. I am particularly hard on myself and I don’t seem to recognise my own needs and wants in life. I do and give a lot more then I receive and as a result of that I feel both self-neglected and uncared for by others. This is where I am right now but it doesn’t mean it’s where I have to stay.
The choices we make in our lives is what shapes us and how we frame our experiences is what determines how we feel through life. I seem to default to framing my life from the place of fear and scarcity and not from a place of love and abundance. But love and abundance can only become my default if I choose to pay attention to cultivating them more and more. Whilst it’s frustrating to realise that my progress is slow and that I keep falling into the traps that I’ve set for myself, it’s also important to recognise that this is all part of life.
If you’re waiting for joy and peace to arrive, you will wait forever! You need to feel the joy and peace that is here, in the present moment with everything else you have going on. Joy and peace aren’t these abstract things that you attain once you get everything else out of the way. They’re what you feel when you pause, take a deep breath and notice what’s right in front of you and most importantly deep within you. In our search for success, achievement, growth and prosperity we tend to lose what really matters to us, ourselves.
At the end of the day, we all just want to feel enough. We all just want to be loved and cared for by those that we love. We want to feel safe and secure. We crave connection and acceptance. We all want to find joy and contentment. All of these are attainable if we look in the right places and if we know how to frame our experiences.
So much reframing to do!
Love Always,
M
Souloom™ 