RefraME

I have recently discovered reformer pilates which has given me the gift of reconnecting with my body but what has honestly humbled me and made me feel loved and encouraged is the beautiful trainer who I’ve crossed paths with. She has been one of the most impactful people in my life, holding up the mirror for me and helping me see myself in a light that I’ve never seen before. We all need someone external to us to point out our blindspots and she has helped me discover how blind I have been to my beautiful, amazing Self.

She sees me and who I am on the inside and calls that out. She’s gifted like that, in that she has the heart needed to see your soul and help remind you of who you truly are. These sessions don’t just offer physical growth but also psychological healing and I’m so incredibly grateful for her. Today she made a comment that has shifted a very deeply held belief in me that I was not aware of at all! I was expressing my thoughts about the next steps with my partner and used the term of ‘it’s my anxiety talking’ and she held the mirror up and said ‘I don’t think that’s anxiety I think you confuse your rationality with anxiety.’ All of a sudden it dawned on me that she’s right, I realised that the reason why I was calling it my anxiety is because my ego mind has associated anxiety with my entire way of being. I’ve completely forgotten that I am actually a rational thinking person and that these thoughts are important when making major life decisions. I am aware that I have anxiety and that is something that I’m healing through, but I am not always anxious and I need to remind myself of the distinction between thinking about the future with rational consideration and worrying about the future. It’s a fine line between the two but I am now aware enough to challenge my own labelling.

When you don’t look at yourself in a kind way you are constantly and subtly putting yourself down. Overtime I have confused my process of rational thinking, consideration and reflection with overthinking, anxiety and lack of control. The shift that occurred today has set me free and I am now curious about adopting this reframe into action so that I can be kinder to myself and celebrate my strengths as opposed to judging myself for the way that I am in the world. The beauty of our minds is that what it believes it becomes, this is why it’s so important to challenge your own thoughts and to have others hold up the mirror for you.

This distinction will enable me to feel more comfortable in my own skin, to consider things without judging myself and being self-critical. I can now step into the decision making process without fear and with more clarity. There will no doubt be things that will cause me to worry, but there are also things that I’m just considering and being curious about.

Take back your power and step into the space of abundance and enablement instead of self-judgement and punishment. What are the beliefs you’re holding onto that are preventing you from taking a step towards a more truer version of yourself?

Love Always,

M