What a year it has been. Some of the most life altering experiences took place for me this year and now I am exhausted. As the year is being wrapped up and the holiday season unravels, it is making me reflect on what the most important nuggets of wisdom have been for me.
These are just a few reminders of the lessons I have learned learned and which I would like to carry into the new year with me:
- Plan all you want, when life has a plan for you, there is nothing you can do to sway from it. So, be flexible and open to the opportunities, paths and directions that flow your way.
- Not all people are capable of honesty, love and kindness. Hurt people, hurt people. We are all a villian in someone elses story, there is nothing we can do to manage how others percieve us. All that we can control is living a values aligned life that is true for us and making the most informed decisions that is aligned with our moral compass. Despite our good intentions and all our efforts, we may still be hated, ridiculed, judged, rejected, labelled and or misunderstood. Don’t carry the darkness others bring into the room. Find a way to keep your light shining, no matter how dim it gets.
- Being gaslighted and having the rug pulled from underneath you is debilitating; take the time to recover and give yourself grace and compassion to process this betrayal. There is a lesson in everything, you will be able to heal from this.
- Do the things you are most afraid of, because they are most likely the things that will bring you the greatest amount of joy.
- Trust yourself even if everyone else doesn’t. Listen to your intuition and let that inner compass guide you down the path that is right for you. Those who are aligned will walk with you and those who pull you down will be left behind. Trust yourself, trust in God.
- There are many flaws in my way of percieving the world. But these flaws don’t deserve punishment, they deserve curiousity, compassion and love. No one is perfect, no one has all there shit together all the time. Be kind to yourself as you learn about your flaws and you work on loving them better.
- It’s ok to take time out to rest, to not be productive, focused or deliberate. It’s ok to feel tired and worn out. It’s ok. This too shall pass.
- Joy is found in the very small moments where you are present.
- No one knows you better than you do; and you don’t know others anymore than you think you do.
- Dreams come true, they just take different shapes and colours to what your imagination could have created.
- Let go of those who don’t invest in your heart. Those who don’t pour love into your life. Those who come and go as they please. Create the space to invite others in and embrace the new connections that will allow you to fall back in love with others.
- You are your own worst critic; learn how to become your biggest cheerleader too.
- Labels can only explain things at a superficial level; you get to decide what your experiences mean and how you are in the world.
- There is nothing wiser than a tree, more beautiful than the chirpping of the birds and more serene than being in nature as one.
- Falling in love with yourself will be the most prickly experience imaginable.
- Everyone is lost, everyone is longing. Don’t take what they say or do personally.
- Beyond all the desires is a space of nothingness; in that space the only thing that has meaning is god.
- If you could, you would have. So if you didn’t, you couldn’t. There is no shame in that.
- Live a life of gratitude.
I hope whatever this year has brought you has allowed you to evolve into your next chapter and that you find the healing and acceptance you need to fall utterly in love with yourself.
Enjoy the holiday season.
Love Always,
M
Souloom™ 