Here is a mini dialogue with one’s heart and mind:
“Oh heart, you feel so deeply. The mind is consumed by its own thoughts and is unable to open its arms for you. The space you need to grow is vast, where am I to get this amount of abundance for you?
Oh heart, I am afraid of allowing you to roam free. You give me a sense of impulsivity. You will run around, destroying everything I’ve worked so hard to build. Or at least, that’s what I’ve been told to believe about you.
Is it true? Is a heartfelt life full of regret, impulse and emotionality? What happens when you believe that your heart misleads you and that your thoughts are the only guiding compass that you can trust?
Oh heart, I need to make you smaller. I need to hide you away from anyone that will try to break you, harm you or steal you. I must work hard to keep you safe, closed off and caged. Oh heart it’s for your own good. Or is it? That’s what I’ve been told is honourable thing to do.
Oh heart, if I allow you to choose for us, you’d choose poorly. If I allow you to lead, you’d be stuck and lost. If I allow you to create, you will do whatever you desire. Oh heart, I’ve heard you are selfish, only chasing what you want and not paying attention to anything else.
Oh heart, you’re out of control and the mind is the only one that can bring order and control into our lives. The mind can make sense of it all. It can take charge. It can decide for us. It can plan, organise and lead us towards the right path. Right?”
Now, let’s unpack this.
This inner conflict between the head and the heart is one that we all face from time to time. We are led to believe so many limiting ideas about what our heart is there for as well as what our mind can achieve. Unfortunately, most of us have never learnt how to balance out the head and the heart. It’s a tug-a-war between them and often the mind ends up winning because everything around us tells us that is the responsible thing to occur. But is it the most truest, beautiful and authentic path to follow? Is it the most enriching, joyful and peaceful one to pursuit?
I am starting to learn that perhaps my thoughts about my own heart have stopped me from living a life that is whole. I have silenced parts of me that are truest to me, so that I can be what others want of me, need of me and at times expect of me. To be the one who follows rules, conforms, accepts and just gets on with it. But in doing so, what have I turned my back to?
Life is but a string of choices that we make, we are constantly curating a life that is determined based on the beliefs we’ve been carrying our whole lives. When we pause to challenge these thoughts we can come to see what we truly feel, think and want. Pause and notice, what is your heart telling you and how does your mind jump in to steer it.
Let go of anything that clips your wings.
Let go of anything that dulls your light.
Let go of anything that silences your song.
Let go of anything that holds you back.
Even if the thing that you must let go of is the version of yourself that you’ve come to know so far.
Love Always,
M
Souloom™ 