Pay attention to what’s around you, what’s on your mind, what your body is feeling like. Pay attention to your experiences, the thoughts, the beliefs, the reactions. Pay attention.
What do you find?
What are you experiencing?
What stories are you telling yourself?
What stories are you being told?
Pay attention to what you are prioritising, what you’re dedicated to and how you are spending your time. What are you running from, what are you avoiding, what are you accepting, what are you rejecting, what are you letting go of and what are you inviting in.
So much of our lives we let go of the power of choice. The power to experience things the way that rings true to us and that allows us to walk through life with joy. We are so lost, so tied up, so tired, so confused, so distracted, so stretched that we can’t even recognise it. The choice is here for us, in adversity and in calm. In moments of hardship and moments of joy. In moments of injustice and in moments of truth. It’s a choice, everything is a choice, but that doesn’t mean the experiences are any less valid or that the emotions don’t have to be processed.
Life, is but a choice. Moments are but a choice. I’ve noticed this year that when I step into my choice, I’m a lot more liberated than when I let go of my being. For example, I get easily dysregulated when interacting with some of my family members. Mainly because they’re already dysregulated and it’s hard for them to communicate from a place of peace. So, I’ve always reacted to this through feeling hurt, frustrated, angry, stressed or some other negative emotion that has blocked me. But I recognise that if I were to be aware of what was going on and choose not to react to the situation but instead just feel the discomfort and find grounding, then I can allow myself a little bit of space to Be.
This doesn’t mean I’m comfortable in those dynamics or that I won’t get dysregulated, but it does mean that I’m in control of the dysregulation and not the other way around. So this is what I mean by choice, this is what I mean by our power to choose our moments as best that we can for our own benefit and therefore the benefit of others.
Life is full of these moments, when you are faced with the discomfort lean in to explore it. Don’t resist it, don’t surrender to it, don’t identify with it, don’t attach meaning to it and or go on the search of where it came from and why. Just allow yourself to relax, observe, allow and accept until it washes past you. Recognise you’re in the drivers seat and you’re experiencing something that was necessary in that moment for whatever reason. You are not it, it is not you. You, are just journeying on with the though, experience or emotion.
Choose the things that bring you the most peace, calm and joy. Start with the small things, pay attention to the little moments. Allow yourself the grace and compassion to love yourself the way that you deserve through the power of choice.
Love Always,
M
Souloom™ 