All of us want to be loved, but some of us have a difficult time finding safe and secure relationships that provide us with the love and light we deserve. In a world full of pain, uncertainty, injustice and hardship it’s important that we surround ourselves with people who have the capacity to love us deeply. We can be kind to everyone we interact with, but we need to be clear about who gets to walk into the depths of our hearts and provide input into our thoughts.
I used to make friends with everyone, always assuming that friendships are pure. I stepped into relationships with trust, not realising that not everyone walks through the world with the same intentions. It’s taken me some time to learn that not everyone has the ability to reciprocate the same level of goodness, love and loyalty that I may offer. That doesn’t make them bad people, and it doesn’t mean they are any less worthy of love. But it does mean that being selective and protective of your own energy, thoughts and soul will allow you to maintain a vibration that is expansive and beautiful.
People change, relationships evolve and we end up disappointed and hurt by the people we once trusted. When that happens we have a choice, either blame ourselves and belittle ourselves in the process (what I have typically done) OR, take a step back, observe the situation and accept that not everything is reflective of what we have done and how we have been. Sometimes it is about the context of what is going on for others or the simple reality that people change.
Either way, abandoning yourself to save a relationship that is no longer filled with love is not worthwhile. Surround yourself with people who adore you, who will be honest and firm with you but who will never judge or betray you.
Have clear boundaries around what you expect of others and get comfortable with maintaining those boundaries. You deserve to be held by people who will love you deeply and truly.
Whilst it hurts to let people go, it’s more costly to let go of yourself for the sake of a relationship that has ran its course.
Grieve the loss of the friend or the partner; but also remember to hold onto yourself.
Hold Yourself:
People leave, at least that’s my experience.
But loved ones stay, because they know you internally.
Friendships burn, but those who love you will be there at every turn.
Love is hard, don’t expect too much from people you can’t trust.
I locked my heart, I wanted to throw away the key,
But then I stopped, why should I be the one who lives in misery?
You may have scarred me, you may have burnt me down.
You may have left me fallen on the ground.
But I am not the one who judged you on petty things.
I poured love into a poisoned cup, full of empty dreams.
People change, they always do.
Whether for the better, that’s not always true.
Forgive them for how they treated you and move on.
Good hearts will find good hearts and dark ones will not.
Petty people with petty thoughts should not create your hell.
Move on from anyone who tears you down. From liers, cheaters, fakers and losers too. They will make you feel less than, they will paint you as the fool.
Life is too short to believe in what they say.
You’re too bright to be thrown away.
Go search for healing, through the path that god has laid.
One day you will look up and find that good people, were always here to stay.
Love Always,
M
Souloom™ 